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Hi I'm Elaine

I grew up on a farm in Southern Utah. I'm a mother, grandmother, widow, and retired professor. I'm also a Mormon.

About Me

I had a career in academia as a social work educator and administrator. In addition, I had a small private practice as a psychotherapist. I loved my work but my most rewarding experiences came from raising my family. My children and grandchildren have myriad occupations and live in seven different states now. Visiting them is mostly a pleasure but sometimes challenging as I grow older and find the chaos of young families' lives and schedules exhausting. Throughout my life I have found many opportunities for travel, both through my work and for pleasure. I have lived in England, New Zealand, Spain, and Zimbabwe, and I have visited dozens of other countries. I loved them all! In my younger years I did a lot of rigorous hiking. Now I take leisurely walks and enjoy good books and good conversation. I also enjoy concerts, plays, and lectures on a variety of topics. I used to write for academic publications. Now I'm working on my memoir. I'm not through traveling and have plans to see many countries in the future.

Why I am a Mormon

I am grateful for religious parents who taught me the gospel from an early age. I had to answer questions for myself, however, as I grew older, and those questions and challenges served to strengthen my faith. Mormonism is not an easy path. Celibacy outside marriage, as well as abstinence from tea, coffee, alcohol, and tobacco, require personal dedication and discipline. At times I wished for a little more freedom, but I have watched people around me with that "freedom" and they are not free. I am grateful for guidelines that have given me a lifestyle of happiness. I'm also grateful for doctrine and principles that come through scriptures and prophets, both ancient and modern. Through study and the witness of the Holy Ghost, I have come to know the truth of "The Book of Mormon" as well as the existence and value of modern prophets. They help me understand God's plan for us within an eternal context. I am confident that, because of Christ's atonement, I will continue to live after this body takes its last breath. I look forward to a glorious resurrection and the opportunity to learn and grow forever.

How I live my faith

Religion is important to me and throughout my life I have been actively involved in my church. My favorite calling is to teach various lessons in the women's organization but currently I am responsible for conducting congregational singing for our church service and I arrange for special musical numbers to enhance the spirit of the meeting. In addition, my friend and I are assigned to visit two other women in our congregation each month. Initially, these were women I would not have chosen to visit but after many visits, they became my good friends. It is difficult to be isolated in our church because every member gets a visit every month.

What is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' attitude regarding homosexuality and same sex marriage?

I was married to a gay man for fifteen years. We raised four children and, for the most part, were happy. We divorced when he felt compelled to explore his homosexual nature. Decades later we rekindled a warm friendship. During the final months before his death, he apologized numerous times and shared serious regret for giving up on our marriage. I don't underestimate the needs or torment experienced by those who struggle with same-gender attraction. The feelings are potent and powerful! However, I am left with the question: Why would our liberal society think they are doing people like my husband a favor by convincing them that they do not have a choice? In our desire for freedom, wouldn't we all want choice? In the case of my husband, I believe the issue of choice could be compared to the way in which I might differentially treat two dogs. If I feed them differently, they will grow differently, and the dog I feed well is the dog that will grow and be healthy. As my husband began feeding his curiosities and temptations while simultaneously starving his wife and family, his homosexual nature took over and he began to feel that he no longer had a choice. In this life we all make sacrifices. We give up things that are important in order to obtain, or hold onto, things that are more important. It's what we invest in--our time, our means, our emotions--that becomes, or remains, most important to us. My husband had a choice. Sadly, the investment could have been in our family. Show more Show less