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Hi I'm Cary

I'm a husband, dad, a clinical social worker, deep thinker, hilarious (not always on purpose) and I'm a Mormon.

About Me

I am a fun loving active guy. I enjoy spending time with my wife and my kids. I consider myself a fairly intelligent guy but they are all smarter than me and I am good with that. I have a Masters Degree in Social Work and I work as a therapist trying to help people when they get stuck in some of life's challenges. I enjoy movies, reading and making people laugh. I am a sports enthusiast who rides a bicycle to work and one of the few collectors of root beer bottles on the planet with over 100 brands prominently displayed in my home. To those who watch me from afar they might see an average guy who takes care of his lawn and helps old ladies across the street. Those who know me see someone who is irreverent and who has a different take on life. I have been to 45 states, living in 6 of them and have traveled to 15 countries. The world is a great place.

Why I am a Mormon

Being a Mormon is not always easy and I sometimes struggle with what I am taught or asked to do but the blessings of our faith far outweigh the challenges. I love how our teachings and worship help me feel closer to my Creator. The more I participate in our church, try to serve and ponder through prayer and scripture reading, especially the Book of Mormon, the more peace I feel and a more clear direction I feel in my life. While Mormons and our Church are far from perfect, it is a great community to be part of. We try and mean it when we call each other Brother and Sister. We have lived all over the country and the instant we have arrived in a new place I have found many to laugh with, work with and cry with.

How I live my faith

Currently I volunteer as a clerk in a local congregation. Taking care of records and fiddling around on the computer aren't always the most rewarding things but interacting and trying to help good people with their needs are. I love the opportunity our church gives in asking people to volunteer and to rotate in those assignments. I have made many friendships that way, developed a few talents and hopefully been able to make a small difference along the way. I have loved being a teacher, working with youth and trying to minister to those in need. By far my favorite assignment was my 2 year mission to spread the gospel in Peru. I hope I was able to help others but I gained so much and learned so much from those great people. The gospel of Jesus Christ has helped me realize that service is a mindset and a searching for opportunities to give and help whenever, whomever, wherever and however big or small the need may be.

Why don’t Mormons drink coffee, tea, or alcohol? What is the Mormon Church’s law of health and proper diet?

Cary
I do not use tobacco, alcohol, coffee, tea and drugs because my Church prohibits it. I am fortunate to believe that under the inspiration of Heaven, God has spoken and I have been given guidelines to seriously consider implementing in my life. As I have observed and studied those who use said items, the answer is crystal clear to me. I want no part of them in my life. Obviously just because one uses these substances that does not make them a bad person and certainly there are great people who use some of them in moderation. However I don't want to take the chance of clouding my judgement or becoming dependent by using these substances. Plus I would rather have my money go to better things. Lastly I don't need them. I find that the gospel of Jesus Christ, my personality and my friendships make life rich enough. I don't need substances to make life more enjoyable. Show more Show less

What is the Law of Chastity?

Cary
I view the law of chastity as liberating rather than a restriction. Most of us have sexual urges that can feel overwhelming at times. God's commandments regarding chastity help us remember that while within the bounds of marriage acting on such feelings can create bonding and love, having relations outside of marriage often leads to nothing positive besides physical gratification and unfortunately many negatives including unplanned pregnancy, diseases, a cheapening of a relationship and a deadening of one's emotions. Show more Show less

What is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' attitude regarding homosexuality and same sex marriage?

Cary
I love the fact that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is not hypocritical in how it deals with members who break the law of chastity. Regardless of what gender or who such acts take place, one may be subject to Church discipline and to God's judgment. Having said that I believe God is merciful and I think the Church tries to be. I have compassion for anyone who has sexual urges. I feel them too. That does not mean as a Church we should lower God's standard. We teach His will and try and help people when they falter. I know many people who feel attracted to their same sex. This is not usually a choice they make. Some I have known have worked through those feelings enough where they are happily married to one of the opposite sex. Others don't feel they can do that yet. God is eternal and God can help us all sort it out in the end. Show more Show less