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Hi I'm Victoria

I grew up in Sacramento, CA and St. George, UT. I play and teach the violin and viola and I have 2 beautiful girls.

About Me

I have 2 beautiful daughters. We are a musical family, so we spend lots of time learning violin, guitar, piano and drums. We are trying hard to make it a positive experience for our family and not something they have to do. We struggle to keep our house clean and all of the things we need to do done. This year was great for me becuase I learned to SCUBA dive! Since I've been "grown up," I haven't done a lot of new stuff, mostly things that I am confident I can do. It was awesome for me to really push myself and take a risk in my life. I felt like it really helped me to grow as a person. I also started my Masters degree. I am 2 semesters in at the time of writing. It has been really difficult to find the time to study, and I have stayed up late night after night, but I have been rewarded with A's in all 3 classes I have taken. I didn't realize just how much more writing there was going to be in a graduate program. I know I am supposed to pursue my education further, and I am excited by the new things I am learning. I am able to put my new knowledge into practice, at least when I'm not to tired to think!

Why I am a Mormon

My grandmother was a member of the church, and she took me to church as a child, but as a teenager, I wasn't really active. I was a crazy teenager, but when it came down to getting married, I realized that I wanted to marry someone who shared my common goals. I realized that what that really meant was my faith, and I feel so lucky to have married a great guy. We have been fortunate enough to have grown in the gospel together. We took a really long time to develop our faith. It was latent for a long time. At some point, we started making goals, reading the scriptures, going back to church, visiting with the bishop together and separately, and through the process of repentance, we were able to truly feel like members of Christ's church again. It wasn't that anyone made us feel like we weren't, it is just that deep down in our hearts, we had so much that we needed to forgive ourselves for, we really had to make an effort to work it out. We are really private people, so discussing our personal lives was hard for us to do, but it was really cathartic. I'm sure anyone that has gone to a "shrink" can tell you that, but since I'd never been... Now we are happier than we have ever been. We have better communication skills, we work together to make decisions, and we share the same focus for our family. We have the same goal, and that is to get back to our Heavenly Father again, and to live together as an eternal family. And we know how, and the straight is the gate, and narrow is the way that leads to eternal life. We are so far from perfect, and some days and some years are better than others, but I hope that our conversion continues, and that Christ continues to shine his light upon us all.

How I live my faith

Living in Utah, the culture is different from many other parts of the US. I am very open minded, so lots of non-LDS people that I am friends will assume that I am not a member. I started out trying to be cool, and just sort of glossing over my faith, but now I have found ways to express my faith (hopefully) without alienating my friends and acquaintances that aren't LDS. I have been able to share my faith in a casual way that has made me feel good. I am the music chairman in my ward, which means that I select the music that we sing each week in our large meeting, conduct, and get special musical numbers, such as vocal or instrumental solos. My husband and I have the same job, so he conducts the ward choir. We just got put into this calling, and we are really excited, since we are both musicians. We have been teaching the kids classes, called Primary, for the last 5 years, so it is going to be a nice change. I loved teaching the primary, it really helped me get to know the kids, and it was so fun to see them grow and change. I also go visit 4 women in the ward once a month. At least I am supposed to, but I don't always make it. It is so fun to get to know people. At first I am always hesitant, but then the relationship grows. I also provide special musical numbers for my ward, the larger stake, and at other wards. I love to play my instrument, and through my prayers, I am able to help others feel the spirit of Christ.

What is the role of the husband and the wife in the family?

Victoria
In our family, my husband and I have changed roles as needed to suit the challenges of raising our family. We have always felt that having our children with us was really important. When our first baby was born, we decided that my husband would stay home with her and I would go to work. This was really hard for me, but it was the decision that we had to make. When my second baby was born, I was able to stay home with both of our girls and that was really great. It doesn't matter to us who stays home, just that someone does, and that we keep our family as close as possible. Being good parents to our children was on the top of our priority list. Now that both of our children are in school, it is easier for us to both work to provide for our family. We have such a history that my husband does a lot of the chores around the house, and he is the main cook. We make jokes that the kids would starve to death if he didn't cook! I have lots of good responses to that! He is very organized and helps make good decisions about how to organize chores, family time, homework, and all the other demands on our family. I work a lot. I pitch in daily with what he has going on. I wanted to write on this topic becuase I think that many people perceive the LDS church as being controlling of women. I have never felt that I was in any way being controlled. I feel like I have been an independent women and a breadwinner for our family. Show more Show less