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Hi I'm Marc

I grew up in Chicagoland, went to a private school in the suburbs, my wife and I have five children, and I'm a Mormon.

About Me

That private school had a big impact on me. It was actually an all-girls school before I got there in first grade. Another boy, Charlie, and I were the first boys to attend the school (which is how it changed it from all-girls to coeducational). Even though the class sizes were very small, Charlie and I were surrounded by five girls. So, from a very young age, I learned that women talk faster than men. It always seemed like they were talking about me when they were whispering. Also, any kind of debate with them was strange. It didn't seem to make any difference how much sense I made or how logical my arguments were, they would find ways to disagree with me. This was a college preparatory school, and they didn't even care if I was right! Seriously, however, I think that a private-school education teaches a person to think in a way that is very different from the way people are taught to think in public schools. I had individual attention, for example, and the small classes made it possible for my teachers to give me one-on-one time to assimilate overarching principles versus memorizing data. This modus operandi has, for me, been the foundation for, really, transcendence. Believe me, with a seven-year difference between me and my only sibling, I've had to adapt to bring five children into the world and attempt with my dear wife to raise them. But before I found my wife, I needed to join The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and serve a mission in Australia. My wife and I met while waiting for a photography lab to open up one night at the university we attended. I like to say we met in the dark room and things developed there.

Why I am a Mormon

My parents were both members. My dad joined the Church in 1959 and my mom joined in 1970. I joined in 1973. My older sister has never joined the Church. Quite the gaps in that chronology, wouldn't you say? A pair of missionaries knocked on our door in 1959. While growing up in Independence, Missouri, Mom was a member of the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, also known today as the Community of Christ. Mom wanted Dad to hear what those missionaries had to say and invited them in. Dad knew what the missionaries were telling him was true immediately and was baptized three weeks later. Mom immediately rejected the message. In fact, she divorced Dad in 1969, citing his joining the Church as part of the cause. Interestingly, Dad baptized Mom in 1970 during a brief reconciliation period. Their actual reconciliation didn't take place until 2005, however, when, at 85 and 84 years of age, Dad and Mom were married for time and all eternity in the Chicago Temple. Dad died in 2008 and Mom just died in 2010. They sure made everything right in the end! So here's how it happened for me: My summer job in 1972 and 1973 was driving a cab. Cab-driving is dangerous. I found myself talking with God more and more, and getting more and more answers, during each of these summers. In fact, between the summer of 1972 and the summer of 1973, I started reading the Bible while I was away at college. During the summer of 1973, I was literally praying all the time. I would pray about how to get somewhere or back from somewhere. (You can get lost around Chicago very easily, even if you grew up there.) I prayed about all sorts of things. Near the end of the summer of 1973, I had gotten two tickets. Three tickets would have been the end of my license. I was worried, so I prayed about that. My mother noticed my apprehensiveness and suggested I go to church with her. I did. During the week, though, I pretty much decided not to go back the next Sunday. But when the day came, I decided to give it another chance. Between this second Sunday and the third Sunday, I thought about it a lot, and by Saturday I had decided not to go back. And then an interesting thing happened that Saturday. A guy on his way to O'Hare got in the front seat of my cab. There was an insurance regulation that stipulated that, unless there was no room in the back seat, passengers should not ride in the front seat. I had a spiel for this: "Sir, insurance regulations preclude single passengers from sitting in the front seat. Will you please sit in the back? Thank you." I was about to spit that out when I just stopped opening my mouth. It turned out that this guy was on his way to Salt Lake City. He talked about the Church for the entire ride. On his way out of the cab, he said "You'll be a member someday." I never saw him again, but I decided to go back to church the next day. Anyway, after getting back to school in the fall, I took the missionary discussions and was baptized in September.

How I live my faith

First and foremost, I try to be a good son to my Heavenly Father and Mother, good husband and father, good son to my earthly father and mother, good brother, and good human. Also, I type on my laptop computer (like a person would type closed captions on TV) for my 16-year-old daughter who is deaf during a one-hour meeting each Sunday. During this meeting, the Sacrament of the Lord's Supper is administered and members of the congregation give talks about Christ's teachings. Also, I and one of my sons are assigned by Church leaders to meet with three families in our congregation once each month in their homes. We try to care for these people on an individual basis and teach them principles that will help them live purposefully and happily. Also, I serve in the leadership of a group of men in our congregation who have been ordained to the priesthood of God. In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, all worthy males are ordained to the priesthood from the age of 12. Also, I do my work with integrity.

Do Mormons practice polygamy?

I'm in sales, so most of the guys in my office ask me how many wives I have. I usually say "four" and talk about how great it is. Then I tell them the truth, which is that I can only handle one. Here is the Church's official answer to the polygamy question: "At various times, the Lord has commanded His people to practice plural marriage. For example, He gave this command to Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, David, and Solomon Doctrine and Covenants 132:1. At other times the Lord has given other instructions. In the Book of Mormon the Lord told the prophet Jacob, 'For there shall not any man among you have save it be one wife: and concubines he shall have none . . . for if I will, saith the Lord of Hosts, raise up seed unto me, I will command my people otherwise they shall hearken unto these things.' Jacob 2:27-30. "In this dispensation, the Lord commanded some of the early Saints to practice plural marriage. The Prophet Joseph Smith and those closest to him, including Brigham Young and Heber C. Kimball, were challenged by this command, but they obeyed it. Church leaders regulated the practice. Those entering into it had to be authorized to do so, and the marriages had to be performed through the sealing power of the priesthood. In 1890, President Wilford Woodruff received a revelation that the leaders of the Church should cease teaching the practice of plural marriage, Official Declaration 1. "The Lord’s law of marriage is monogamy unless he commands otherwise to help establish the House of Israel. Encyclopedia of Mormonism Vol. 3, pp. 1091-1095." Show more Show less