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Hi I'm Lacey

I'm a redheaded social worker, favorite aunt, crisis therapist, blogger, and advocate. I'm gay and I'm a Mormon.

About Me

I am a people-person. I was 10 when my family moved to Utah, and we'd moved several times before that. Moving meant meeting lots of new people. Because my parents raised me to believe all humans are children of God, I was exposed to a wide variety of cultures and ethnicities with the knowledge that we are all created equal. My extraverted dad has never met a stranger and would offer you all the food you could eat and the coat off his back, if you needed it. After studying to be a teacher, I decided to change directions and become a therapist. I felt led by God in the process and moved to New Jersey for the culture shock of a lifetime! It was then that I came to the realization that I've always been attracted to women the way I'm supposed to be attracted to men. It was an extremely difficult time trying to reconcile my faith with my newly realized identity -- but you can read more about that on my blog "State of Mercies." I graduated in May 2017 with a Master's of Social Work degree from Rutgers University. I'm currently a therapist for short-term crisis stabilization. Eventually, I would love to work primarily with adolescents. Regardless of where I go or what I do, I want to help those who struggle and help them feel peace. I have seen a divine hand lift me through heartache and struggles throughout my life, now I want to give back by paying it forward. I trust in my Heavenly Father and know that He is always guiding me towards where I need to be.

Why I am a Mormon

I am a Mormon for several reasons, but I guess it's all summed up to the fact that life is hard! I have been knocked down over and over again by life's blows. Trials come in all shapes and sizes. Since before I could talk or walk, I was learning who God is and how the Savior came to earth to atone for my sins. The Plan of Salvation and the core doctrines of the church have given me more stability and security than I even knew! There have been times when I've pushed God away, angry that He would allow awful things to happen to me and to others in this world. Again and again, though, I've been gently reminded that life is never more smooth than when God is in the "driver's seat" of my life. I can be willful and stubborn, yet He's always patient and loving with me. I've met a lot of people from a lot of different faiths and belief systems, and I believe everything that brings people closer to God is of beautiful importance because all light comes from God. In my personal experiences, I have come to strongly believe that Jesus Christ is the Redeemer of mankind and that His atonement was individual - for me, for you, and for each and every soul. God knows and loves every one of His children. Christ's atonement provided grace that doesn't just make up the difference - He makes all the difference. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has the most light and truth and "pieces" to the puzzle of any church I've learned about. I have tried to imagine life without the beliefs of this gospel, only to be left feeling lost and hopeless. I have received so many blessings from my membership in this church and from the doctrines I've learned and pondered and prayed to know more about. I am a Mormon because I continue to feel peace and joy through the Holy Ghost as I try to live the way God would have me live. I can't deny pure light and goodness.

How I live my faith

There are a lot of ways, big and small, that I live my faith. I love to be as involved as possible in church, wherever I am. As interesting as it seems, the more time and effort I devote to church assignments, the more efficiently I seem to handle my other obligations. I love that every adult in the church has the opportunity to love and "take care" of each other through home and visiting teaching. Visiting teaching is the opportunity for the women in a congregation to love and lift one another. Getting to know the people in my assigned congregation often leads to beautiful friendships with people I otherwise would never have taken the time to get to know. I find that every person has a beautiful heart, but some people miss it because they aren't even looking. Another favorite way to live my faith and serve in the church is by teaching. We have different kinds of teachers, but Gospel Doctrine Instructor for Sunday School is my favorite. I have learned so much through my experiences as a teacher of lessons about the Old and New Testament and the Doctrine and Covenants. As a teacher, I have to dig deep in the scriptures to help others learn, which always teaches me the most! No matter where or how I serve, I enjoy learning the lessons the Lord wants to teach me through service to others. What I feel to be the most important way I live my faith is by praying to my Father in Heaven. Prayer is a vital part of my daily life and helps me feel of the love God has for me. I always have a prayer in my heart.

Why do some call Mormonism a cult?

Growing up in the church, I often wondered how people could possibly call our church a cult. I moved to various normal towns, lived around normal people, and did normal things. We are normal people, just like everyone else. We simply take our faith and try to implement it into our daily lives. I have come to the conclusion that people must call Mormonism a cult because they either lack basic understanding of our fundamental principles or they have a fear of the unknown... maybe it's a combination of both? When I first heard the word "cult" I was still too young to understand what it meant. When I was a teenager I read a novel about some teens who got wrapped-up in a cult. When I realized what a cult was and that people thought of our church in that way, I was thoroughly confused. This is the church that I have been raised in, gained a testimony of, and that I believe in and know is true with all of my heart. In this church, there is only one leader: God, our Heavenly Father. How is this true? Because He speaks to living prophets, just as He did in biblical times. We don't worship these prophets, yet we do love and revere them for we know they're men of God. We worship God, our Eternal Heavenly Father and His son Jesus Christ, the Savior of the world. Members of the church are here because they want to be here. They feel of the joy of the Holy Ghost and they desire to be a part of this church. This church is a choice, not a cult. If you have questions, ask the missionaries! Show more Show less

Why don’t Mormons drink coffee, tea, or alcohol? What is the Mormon Church’s law of health and proper diet?

Drinking coffee, black tea, and alcohol are against our law of health, called the Word of Wisdom. This law was given to one of our prophets almost two centuries ago, way before research started proving some of these substances had negative affects. I'm grateful for the Word of Wisdom because it was ahead of its time and has been guiding the members of the church how to be healthy for a long time. Basically, we need to abstain from anything that can be addictive or habit-forming. Obviously illegal drugs can be addictive and wreak havoc on the body. Alcohol can not only be addictive, but no one can deny the huge decrease in suffering there would be if it was never consumed. Coffee and black tea are stimulants that can also be very habit-forming and research has not proven them to have health benefits outweighing their negative side-effects. The Word of Wisdom isn't just a list of "can and can'ts" that members of the church follow blindly. These are guidelines that, if followed, make us happier and allow us access to more blessings we seek. I personally follow the Word of Wisdom because I know being addicted to a substance will not make me happy and nothing good can come of it. No good comes from tobacco. Coffee and tea aren't necessary for a happy life. Though I do adore herbal tea! I can also say I've never had a sip of alcohol and have no desire. Seeing people binge-drink or have problems with alcoholism reaffirm my belief that I don't need alcohol to be happy. Show more Show less