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Hi I'm Susan Jayne Ralston

I am an attorney, a wife, a mother of four grown children, and three grandchildren. I'm a Mormon.

About Me

I love being a wife, a mother to my four adult children, and a grandma to three grandchild. Family life is still very important once children leave home. I work diligently to keep contact through phone calls, visits, text messaging and emails so that everyone feels connected. The world is pulling us apart faster each day with new distractions and enticements. It takes more work to keep connected after the children leave home because they are not as available. Nothing in this world is more important than family. Since I work full-time as a family law attorney, I get involved in that very aspect of many people's lives. I believe that while divorce is not always the answer and is certainly difficult on a family, two separating parents can cooperate to love and support their children by keeping them active in church and using the support systems of the church to help their children with the emotional adjustments. Coming from a very imperfect family myself has made me sensitive to these issues. No one should be left out of the gospel/church because of their family dynamics, whether single mom, divorced dad, or children with emotionally absent parents. I was able to overcome my obstacles growing up because of the care and love of many of my "other parents" in the church.

Why I am a Mormon

My mother raised me to be a member of the church. But, I still had to make my own decisions about being baptized and ultimately, about following my faith. Most Mormon youth, like any other youth, follow the teachings of their parents. However, we are expected to eventually find out for ourselves if the church is true. I took that journey at about age 19/20 when I looked very deeply inside myself, studied the gospel, prayed and fasted for answers. I came to know for myself that the restored gospel of Jesus Christ is true. That is why I chose to serve a mission. Once I had that certainty, I had to share it with others. I continue to be active in this church because I have a deep and abiding assurance that it is right, that my Savior loves and knows me, and because of the happiness I feel as a result. My membership in the church and my faith give me a sense of security in a world that is in constant turmoil.

How I live my faith

Choosing to be a Mormon means that I don't smoke, drink, or engage in certain activities. It means that I keep the Sabbath Sunday holy by not working, shopping, doing recreational things, and by attending church on that day. I don't watch movies that are rated "R" or that have sexual content or gratuitous violence. I choose uplifting entertainment that is enjoyable and enriching to mind and spirit. Being a Mormon means that we dress modestly. Raising two daughters in a society where tatoos and revealing clothing is the norm is a challenge for any parent. With the support of youth church leaders and the teachings of the church, we successfully taught our children to keep their bodies sacred, to dress appropriately, and to avoid worldly activities that could harm them. As a result, our adult children are happy. Their choices then have brought happiness now. One of the most important parts of living my faith is helping others. I volunteer to help women, children and youth. Every month, I visit two women in our church to make sure they are ok, to help with any needs and to be their friend. Other women visit me in the same way. Someone is always watching over us to help us when we need it. I also teach adults in Sunday School on Sundays. I also volunteer working in the temple on Saturdays with my husband. The temple is one of the holiest places on earth because we worship there. I always feel peace and joy when I work there.

What are Mormon women like? Do Mormons believe in equality of men and women?

Susan Jayne Ralston
As a Mormon woman, I am often asked about how the Church views women, their roles, and equality of women in the Church. My personal experience has always been positive. Women and men are viewed as equally important but with different interdependent roles and responsibilities. In our family, we always make decisions together. My husband never makes significant decisions without my input and support. I don't make significant decisions without his advice and counsel. Many times, we both make decisions on behalf of each other or our family because we have the same goals. Mormon women are treated with equal respect, dignity and responsibility. The men have a leader who serves their spiritual needs and teaches them how to be better fathers and spouses. The women, likewise, have a support group that is led by a woman and her counselors who teach and help us how to be better mothers and women of God. I have been a leader and teacher for women, teenagers and young primary age children ages 18 months to 12 years. Mormon women speak, pray and teach in church meetings. I teach a Sunday School class to both men and and women. Women have leadership callings among women and children. Our Bishop and his counselors are male because we follow the example of how Christ originally set up his church. I have always felt supported as a Mormon woman by the male leadership in the church. I can always go to a female leader over the women if I have problems that I need help with. Show more Show less