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Want Great Friends? Start by Being One

By Mormon.org
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Birds of a Feather

If you believe the ancient proverb “Birds of a feather flock together,” then you probably agree that if you want to have great friends in your life, you have to start by being one. Whether you are looking for good work associates, true friends, or even that special someone to share your life with, start by becoming the best kind of person you can be.

Looking for a To-Do List?

Where do you start when looking to develop and strengthen the qualities you need to become a good friend? There are some great resources available to start building your “to-do” list today.

Take, for example, the Scout Law of the Boy Scouts of America. Young men within this organization commit to being “trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.” Who wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like that?

Young women ages 12–18 in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are encouraged to set and accomplish goals that will help them develop the values of faith, divine nature, individual worth, knowledge, choice and accountability, good works, integrity, and virtue. As they do, they learn who they are, come closer to Jesus Christ, and become the kind of people others would be happy to consider friends.

The Apostle Paul teaches us to develop charity, one characteristic of a great friend. In 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, he reminds us that “charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” We could spend a lifetime developing these characteristics of charity to become a good friend.

The Savior gave us the perfect example to follow when trying to become a good friend. Throughout His mortal ministry, Christ was faithful, prayerful, wise, virtuous, humble, obedient, patient, charitable, giving, and forgiving. Learn about cultivating these characteristics in 10 Characteristics of Jesus Christ and How to Develop Them.

Begin Today

Take a look at these suggestions and create your own “to-do” list of things that can help you become a great friend. As you do, you will find that others will recognize your efforts and you will be surrounded by great friends every day.