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What is the role of the husband and the wife in the family?

Official Answer

Children are a wonderful blessing. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalms 127:3).

Raising a child isn’t easy. In fact, it’s among the most challenging and all-consuming responsibilities we have in life. But good parenting is vital—to society and to the Lord.

Both mother and father have a necessary and important role in the lives of their children. Parents’ work in the home will be more effective if their first priorities are God, each other, and their children.

A home that is safe, where children can grow mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, requires faith and the best efforts of the parents working together (see “The Family: A Proclamation to the World”).

In such a home, children learn to love and serve each other. They learn to keep the commandments of God and to be good citizens. Such homes bless children and their communities.

  • The role of husband and wife in the family is to first and foremost love each other! Wow, revolutionary!!! I have found that when there is love and complete commitment between my husband and I, there is no problem that we cannot face together. It is much easier to teach the children with love and to handle life's challenges. My husband and I are equals. I feel loved, respected, and appreciated by him. I hope he feels the same things from me. Show more

  • Husbands and wives should work together as a team, as equals, in bringing families into the world and raising them up in the right path. My wife and I find parenting to be challenging at times, but our faith gives us perspective, as well as the desire to do the hard work that parenting involves. We both see our primary responsibilities in family life as sometimes different, but always equal. Show more

  • children are a blessing from heavenly father and we should love them and care for them because they are the future of our family and of the whole world and God wants us to provide all the necesities of life for them that they may be happy and that we can bring happiness to our lifes. Show more

  • Husband and wife in a marriage are meant to be equal, partners. The husband is the head of the household and is responsible for the temporal welfare of his family. His role is to support his wife. The wife is also to support her husband and to nurture her family both spiritually and emotionally. Husband and wife are meant to work side by side in providing a safe haven from the world for their family. Their roles are different, but equally important and essential to building the family and the community. Show more

  • As husband and wife our job is to help, teach and nurture each other and our children through this life with whatever comes our way along the path. Simply put, we must love one another. Show more

  • This is a wonderful question that I feel strongly about. One thing we must remember is that we are all beloved spirit sons and daughters of heavenly parents that love us more than we will ever know. As we become husbands and wives we have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for our children. The Lord stated in Psalms 127:3, “Children are an heritage of the Lord.” What a great responsibility this is. We as parents have a sacred duty to rear our children in love and righteousness, provide for their physical and spiritual needs, teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law abiding citizens wherever they live. It is by divine design that fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. As fathers work to live up to these responsibilities, Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. Mothers have a special way that most fathers don’t of being able to nurture their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Show more

  • The first commandment God gave to Adam & Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. God commanded his children to multiply and replenish the earth. Husband and Wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for their children. By divine design, Fathers are to preside over the families in love and righteousness, and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. I am a wife, but not yet a mother; and I love my responsibilities. As I work beside my husband we grow closer together each day. He is my sweetheart, my rock, my shoulder to cry on, he is my everything. Show more

  • It is difficult to answer this question separating the role of husband and wife because they actually should work together in harmony as a unit. Husbands have the primary role of supporting and sustaining the family and wives the role of raising the children, but this simplistic description doesn't really address what is most important. That is that the husband and wife communicate and plan through inspiration, mutual respect, love, and charity for the development of a rich family life that prepares children to be independent and successful in their own lives, increasingly understanding God's plan for them as they grow to adulthood. After the children are grown, the process continues mutually working together to serve each other and others gaining greater understanding and preparing for Eternal life. Of course, this is a challenging venture especially when one of the parents is absent or less committed than the other, but as family members attempt to communicate and seek inspiration that righteous people are entitled to, the Lord if invited will step in and help at crucial times. Show more

  • I believe the roles of the husband and wife are the most important roles you have in life. The husband is the provider, not necessarily with money, but for safety and examples. I feel the Husband needs to be a man that puts God first. If a man has God first and he wife second,before his own needs, everything else will fall into place. Likewise, the wife must also put God and her husband before herself. I know that in my marriage, things are at its best when we both have the right priorities. When we focus on our Lord and Savior, we have the ability to compromise, and communicate in a calm and loving way. When our focus is on ourselves, everything is in dismay. While I am not yet a parent, I believe the father and mother should have equal responsibilities. Both parents are there to love, nurture, and teach their children. The roles of husbands and wives are not so different from each other. Each need to place the Lord and their spouses needs before their own. They both, as they become parents, should try their best to work together to love, nurture, and teach the children. Show more

  • The husband and wife play an important role in having a successful home and family. Neither the husband nor the wife is more powerful. Both have equal responsibilities in upbringing children to be God-loving and obedient sons and daughters. Both have the same role in building a happy and peaceful home. Though husbands and wives have different skills and characteristics, each of them contributes to the success of a happy home. Both provide an environment that is conducive to learning, living, and loving. Focusing ourselves to God, to each other and to the children makes our family live physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually abundant. Show more

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