The Family is Central to God's Plan
“No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” –David O. McKay
It's no stretch to say that a person has a serious advantage in life if they come from a loving, supportive home. Many people still succeed though they come from less-than-ideal family situations, but having our basic needs met, knowing that our parents love us and learning life lessons at home make all the challenges of day-to-day living that much easier to face. Likely, as an adult you want a happy home for your family.
This is no coincidence. God organizes us into families so that we can grow up in happiness and safety, and so that we can learn to love others selflessly—the key to true joy. Within the family is the best place to learn to love others the way Heavenly Father loves each one of us.
God's Church exists to help families gain eternal blessings. We believe the greatest blessing He gives us is the ability to return to live with Him in heaven with our families. We follow our Heavenly Father's will because that is how we earn this blessing.
We Are All Part of God’s Family
When we call a fellow Church member “Brother” Artigas or “Sister” Brown, we really mean it. It’s not a slang term like saying, “Hey brother!” or “What’s up dude?” We believe that each of us—including those who aren’t members of our Church—is a literal son and daughter of our Heavenly Father (Hebrews 12:9) and therefore, our heavenly siblings. We were loved and taught by our Heavenly Father as part of an eternal family before coming to earth. So we share a bond that transcends this life. Think about it, if you truly thought of your neighbor or coworker as your brother or sister, would you treat them any differently? In the same vein, knowing that your earthly family had eternal significance might help you treat them better as well.
How can your talents and gifts bless others?
Families are Number One
Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who was raised in a happy and secure family with two loving parents. Maybe you weren’t, and growing up was tough without the love and support you longed for. Chances are, as an adult you want the happy home you never had. Living peacefully in a family isn’t always easy, but in God’s restored Church, marriage (Genesis 2:18) and families (Genesis 1:28) are the most important social unit now and in eternity. God wants you to do all you can now to prepare yourself to live with your family forever.
Now and forever, what matters most is family. People who have lived through a disaster never say, “All I could think about during the earthquake was my bank account.” They almost always say, “All I could think about was my wife and kids.” It shouldn’t require a disaster for us to know this truth. But too often, we let earning money, chasing pleasure, or even the needs of people outside our families divert our attention.
Keys to Having a Happy Family on Earth
Next time you want to shout at your teenage son for not emptying the garbage, ask yourself, “What would Christ have me do?”
Happiness within your family will most likely be achieved when it’s founded on the teachings of Jesus. That means being unselfish, honest, loyal, loving and a whole host of other virtues, not to mention a lot of effort. A loving and happy family doesn’t happen by accident.
Think back on your own family. There were times that were happy and times that weren’t. What were the happiest moments? Most likely they were when you felt loved. When your dad cried because you were sick. When you saw your parents laugh and smile, and could see how much they loved each other. When your sister gave you a high five for scoring a goal, or vice versa. When you broke a window and your parents forgave you instead of yelling at you. When the car slid off the road during a blizzard and your family had to walk several miles for help. You held hands and sang to make the time go by faster. Your family pitched in to dig someone else out of the snow. Your family suffered through your high school musical even though you were just a stagehand. Maybe your family prayed, sang songs, or attended church together. You can recreate those happy times today within your own family and marriage. If your family didn’t have many of those happy moments when you were young, make a promise that you’ll make things different now.
Preparation for the Afterlife
How can we develop greater harmony in our homes?
Think of the parts you play, or will play, in your family, and all the responsibility that goes along with each one. A parent, a spouse, a sibling—even little children have a lot to do. The effort we put into strengthening our families is the hardest and most significant work any of us will do on earth. Keeping a peaceful home and putting others' needs first has a refining effect on us, and it is no coincidence that these things can sometimes be grueling. God meant for us to be tested so we could grow and master skills we wouldn't learn any other way—skills like patience and unselfishness that will help us become more like God and prepare us to live with our families throughout eternity.
Don’t get discouraged. No matter how hard you try, your marriage and home won’t be perfect. But if you build them around Christ’s principles including faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work and wholesome fun, home can be a place of refuge, peace and immense joy.
Marriages Made in Heaven
Most people think of a marriage made in heaven as a rare occurrence in which both parties are deeply in love and highly compatible. We like to think that all our marriages are made in heaven. When a couple enters one of our holy temples to be married, they covenant (or promise) they will stay together forever—on earth and in heaven after they die if they are faithful to each other and their promises to the Lord. A temple marriage doesn’t include phrases like, “Till death do you part” or “So long as you both shall live.” If we keep these promises, our children also become part of this heavenly promise—sealed to us forever.
According to a statement made for our Church by a modern prophet and Twelve Apostles in 1995, we believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman.


