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The Family is Central to God's Plan

“No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” –David O. McKay

It's no stretch to say that a person has a serious advantage in life if they come from a loving, supportive home. Many people still succeed though they come from less-than-ideal family situations, but having our basic needs met, knowing that our parents love us and learning life lessons at home make all the challenges of day-to-day living that much easier to face. Likely, as an adult you want a happy home for your family.

This is no coincidence. God organizes us into families so that we can grow up in happiness and safety, and so that we can learn to love others selflessly—the key to true joy. Within the family is the best place to learn to love others the way Heavenly Father loves each one of us.

God's Church exists to help families gain eternal blessings. We believe the greatest blessing He gives us is the ability to return to live with Him in heaven with our families. We follow our Heavenly Father's will because that is how we earn this blessing.


We Are All Part of God’s Family

When we call a fellow Church member “Brother” Artigas or “Sister” Brown, we really mean it. It’s not a slang term like saying, “Hey brother!” or “What’s up dude?” We believe that each of us—including those who aren’t members of our Church—is a literal son and daughter of our Heavenly Father (Hebrews 12:9) and therefore, our heavenly siblings. We were loved and taught by our Heavenly Father as part of an eternal family before coming to earth. So we share a bond that transcends this life. Think about it, if you truly thought of your neighbor or coworker as your brother or sister, would you treat them any differently? In the same vein, knowing that your earthly family had eternal significance might help you treat them better as well.

How can your talents and gifts bless others?

Kenneth Hazen answered …

 I have been blessed with an understanding of math and science and the ability to make complex problems seem simple. I know this is a blessing from God and try to use these talents to assist others. I seek for opportunities to tutor (for free) students in need of help and to answer life's questions as they relate to science and God.

Janie answered …

One of the things that I truly believe is a gift, because I don't know how I do it, and don't understand why others can't, it being able to write poetry. Many, many people have told me that I write what they feel, and cannot put into words. One of the most enjoyable things I do is write about other people I know. It is one of the lovliest ways I know to give a compliment. I try to write about my experiences and my beliefs, through the Mormon lens. Here's an example about Mary, the mother of the Savior. Mary Mary – As you held your baby, Did you marvel At His tiny perfection? Did His fingers curl around yours In a tender grip? And did you cup the back of His small head With your hands, Cradling His dark curls, As mothers always do? When His newly opened eyes looked into yours, Did you see what mothers always see? Wisdom and light and….something else? I’ve always thought you knew Exactly who He was and what He’d do. But what a tender mercy That first He was your baby. His entrance into life was different, And full of stars. From the very first, Even from the day of His birth When shepherds, With the songs of angels still ringing in their ears, Slipped into the stable to pay homage To the Son of God, Was there always someone to come to see To look, to touch? History does not record, but somehow I sense That His life made your life Different. And yet, As a mother, I rejoice That it was for you He learned to crawl, to walk, to talk. And I thank you for your protecting love That allowed Him to grow To be what He needed to be For me. Everyone needs a mother.

Tanya Kay O. answered …

 Everyone has something to share and everyone has something to learn! When I see others shine in sharing their talents it inspires me to want to share too or to improve myself. Also, when we give of ourselves - it helps make things better and joy to both those sharing and those receiving. For example, when you meet someone who has a talent of smiling - it brightens both your day and their day to see their smile. But if they kept that smile to themselves and didn't share it can even lead to sadness for both others as well as themselves. Or, if you had the talent of teaching and knowing how to listen and engage your class - it blesses everyone when you share that. We can all grow together and find joy in sharing our talents!

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Families are Number One

Families are Number One

Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who was raised in a happy and secure family with two loving parents. Maybe you weren’t, and growing up was tough without the love and support you longed for. Chances are, as an adult you want the happy home you never had. Living peacefully in a family isn’t always easy, but in God’s restored Church, marriage (Genesis 2:18) and families (Genesis 1:28) are the most important social unit now and in eternity. God wants you to do all you can now to prepare yourself to live with your family forever.

Now and forever, what matters most is family. People who have lived through a disaster never say, “All I could think about during the earthquake was my bank account.” They almost always say, “All I could think about was my wife and kids.” It shouldn’t require a disaster for us to know this truth. But too often, we let earning money, chasing pleasure, or even the needs of people outside our families divert our attention.


Keys to Having a Happy Family on Earth

Jesus Christ Teaching

Next time you want to shout at your teenage son for not emptying the garbage, ask yourself, “What would Christ have me do?”

Happiness within your family will most likely be achieved when it’s founded on the teachings of Jesus. That means being unselfish, honest, loyal, loving and a whole host of other virtues, not to mention a lot of effort. A loving and happy family doesn’t happen by accident.

Think back on your own family. There were times that were happy and times that weren’t. What were the happiest moments? Most likely they were when you felt loved. When your dad cried because you were sick. When you saw your parents laugh and smile, and could see how much they loved each other. When your sister gave you a high five for scoring a goal, or vice versa. When you broke a window and your parents forgave you instead of yelling at you. When the car slid off the road during a blizzard and your family had to walk several miles for help. You held hands and sang to make the time go by faster. Your family pitched in to dig someone else out of the snow. Your family suffered through your high school musical even though you were just a stagehand. Maybe your family prayed, sang songs, or attended church together. You can recreate those happy times today within your own family and marriage. If your family didn’t have many of those happy moments when you were young, make a promise that you’ll make things different now.


Preparation for the Afterlife

How can we develop greater harmony in our homes?

Stephanie answered …

I have found that turning off the screens and spending time together having fun helps there be peace in my home. We also spend time daily reading scriptures, praying and eating dinner together. One night a week we spend having a lesson and a fun family activity. We teach our children to follow the example of the Savior and that includes being kind and loving to others. When they are fighting over something, I ask them how they can make there be a more loving feeling in our home. We want our home to be a peaceful place where angels (like their sister) will feel comfortable and welcome. I feel more peace and love in our home when I am following the teachings of the church and working to keep our home and family safe from the evils that are out in the world today.

Marilyn Tenley answered …

Having four children, two of which are teenagers, there are many times when harmony seems to have abandoned our home. It is something we are constantly working on. There will always be disagreements, arguments, differences of opinion, but we work at it. Everyday. Communication is so important. We often have family council meetings where everyone has the opportunity to voice their concerns and frustrations. Each time we finish a meeting, we find that we understand each other better and are more able to work together as a family in harmony. Families are a beautiful gift from a loving Heavenly Father, and we want to be together forever. This life is the time for us to grow and learn and experience, and we are grateful that we have each other on this journey.

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Think of the parts you play, or will play, in your family, and all the responsibility that goes along with each one. A parent, a spouse, a sibling—even little children have a lot to do. The effort we put into strengthening our families is the hardest and most significant work any of us will do on earth. Keeping a peaceful home and putting others' needs first has a refining effect on us, and it is no coincidence that these things can sometimes be grueling. God meant for us to be tested so we could grow and master skills we wouldn't learn any other way—skills like patience and unselfishness that will help us become more like God and prepare us to live with our families throughout eternity.

Don’t get discouraged. No matter how hard you try, your marriage and home won’t be perfect. But if you build them around Christ’s principles including faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work and wholesome fun, home can be a place of refuge, peace and immense joy.


Marriages Made in Heaven

Most people think of a marriage made in heaven as a rare occurrence in which both parties are deeply in love and highly compatible. We like to think that all our marriages are made in heaven. When a couple enters one of our holy temples to be married, they covenant (or promise) they will stay together forever—on earth and in heaven after they die if they are faithful to each other and their promises to the Lord. A temple marriage doesn’t include phrases like, “Till death do you part” or “So long as you both shall live.” If we keep these promises, our children also become part of this heavenly promise—sealed to us forever.

According to a statement made for our Church by a modern prophet and Twelve Apostles in 1995, we believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman.

Marriages Made in Heaven

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